Life has a way of ebbing and flowing, and knocking us down just when we start to feel "in control." The thing is, control is a facade. Yes we like to ease our minds by trying to control certain aspects of life, and that definitely has a purpose. But the truth is, at any time, life can jump in and hit us with a big wave. So what do we do then? If our actual ability to control circumstances is limited, how can we take command of our ship when it's sinking?
Our job is to ride the wave. Life has ups and downs that's what makes it so interesting. Without the lows, we wouldn't appreciate the highs. When we get hit hard, we can allow ourselves to become immersed in the experience without becoming the experience. This can even simply be applied to the days when you feel down. You all know that feeling. You wake up on the wrong side of the bed, or you are tired, or you just feel low for no apparent reason. What do you do? Lament about feeling bad, get mad at yourself for not being happy? No! You lean into that feeling. You can feel down. Sometimes that may mean that you stay home and have a quiet day to yourself. Heck you may even bury yourself in bed and read a book or watch Netflix. When I have these down days, I allow it. Instead of trying to force myself into something else, I accept this feeling and even take some time in meditation or silence to discover what the root cause may be. This allows you to experience your emotional state without judgement. Imagine that!
Remember that each day is a new day. Each moment is a new moment. Things can turn around at any time, it's part of the natural ebb and flow of life. If you were happy all the time, you would have no depth, no driving force. And if you are sad all the time, you have no energy or stamina to move forward. We need both to develop all aspects of our character.