The alarm goes off on Monday morning loud and unsetling, cuing you to start your day. You think “ugggghhh, another Monday, I am so not up for this” as you struggle to find it to put a stop to that awful noise. As you are “snoozing” you decide to make a mental list of all of the crap you have to deal with today. As you go through the list you get increasingly annoyed. Finally your second alarm goes off. You sigh and drag yourself out of bed.
On the way to the kitchen you stub your tow. It hurts! You think ‘of course this is how Monday is going to treat me.” You get to the kitchen and put the coffee on. While it’s brewing you decide to open your email and see what fires you have to deal with. You find that even the most innocent email are pushing your buttons today. You grab your coffee and get moving.
Can you relate to this? Sometimes the day just kicks you in the ass! But does it have to?
Your alarm goes off. You’ve set it to be loud enough to wake you up, but not blaring. Thanks to the new phone update, you can select a more soothing ring tone. Bonus if you have a smart watch that vibrates to wake you up. Your first thought is “Today is a Gift” and you hit snooze. As you lay there, you start to make a mental list of the things you are grateful for on this Monday morning. Your second alarm goes off and you get up, taking a moment to stretch and wiggle your body. Gotta wake those muscles up!
You make your way to the kitchen and start the coffee and take a moment to inhale the fresh aroma. The smell of coffee first thing in the morning is so amazing! As you are waiting for it, you grab you kitten/favoite book/lover, and spend a few minutes enjoying their company. Then you pour a cup, smile as you take your first sip, and get moving.
So what’s the difference between Scenario 1 and 2?
Circumstance? Time? Nope. The difference is choice.
One person makes a choice, the other does not. Leaving her at the mercy of her mind and reacting instead of responding to her day. Can you see how this may play out in your own life?
Yes, shit happens. Sometimes, some days, it may seem impossible to get started on the right side of the bed. But know, at any moment, you can make the choice to shift your perspective. Just because it isn't easy, doesn't mean it isn't possible. Part of this process is retraining your brain to see the good in any given scenario. When we start with small, everyday things, we set ourselves up to respond better when the real challenges of life show up.
The Law of Polarity states that nothing is one-sided, and everything contains its opposite. In fact, even the worst of scenarios do contain something positive. This does not mean that life is flowers and rainbows, and you need to ignore the bad and pretend everything is ok. NO. But it does mean that we can start to look for the good, the positive, the silver lining, to help ride the wave of life.
Give this a try. Where in your life do you struggle? What is your mindset and perspective around this? Try to actively look for something positive in this area and see if you notice a shift.